Motivation

I always thought that It’s never too late or too old to start a thing or to change your ways is a phrase that I’ll agree but to some extent. In fact, “the concept of being ‘too old’ for a career reset is increasingly outdated,” Patrice Lindo, CEO of Career Nomad, a consulting firm, tells CNBC Make It.

This is especially true in today’s post-pandemic world, as many professionals have explored different ways of working, from passive income streams to remote jobs, in the past three years. Since the COVID-19 pandemic began, roughly 22% of workers across the nation considered changing careers, according to a recent Zippia report.

• Generally, younger and middle-aged people are more likely to change careers than older employees. Since the COVID-19 pandemic began, roughly 22% of workers across the nation considered changing careers. When broken down by age, 30% of 18 to 39-year-olds considered switching jobs compared to only 12% of people aged 50 or older. Meanwhile, 21% of employees between 40 and 49 years old considered a career change. That means approximately 1 in 3 U.S. workers under the age of 40 have thought about switching jobs since the start of the pandemic.

“sadly, 
sometimes it’s too late. 
and that’s the thing about time, 
we cannot get it back.”— KIANA AZIZIAN

• Studies of personality development often focus on traits such as extroversion, conscientiousness, agreeableness, neuroticism, and openness to new experiences. In most people, these traits change more during young adulthood than in any other period of life, including adolescence.
• Openness typically increases during a person’s 20s and goes into a gradual decline after that.
• This pattern of personality development seems to hold across cultures. Although some see that as evidence that genes determine our personality, many researchers theorize that personality traits change during young adulthood because this is a time of life when people assume new roles: finding a partner, starting a family, and beginning a career.
• Personality can continue to change somewhat in middle and old age, but openness to new experiences tends to decline gradually until about age 60. After that, some people become more open again, perhaps because their responsibilities for raising a family and earning a living have been lifted.

The Difficult Reality The adage “it’s never too late” is frequently used since the alternative can be harmful. One example of the opposing style of thinking is when people feel great internal pressure to do X, Y, and Z by a specific deadline age. Then, they place so much pressure on themselves to accomplish goals—buy a house, get married, hold a particular job title, create a million-dollar business, etc.—that they push themselves to finish tasks whether they should or not to meet deadlines.

Another instance would be if they feel they are “too old” to learn, adapt, try something new, or make a significant decision. They so use it as a justification for continuing to be inflexible and set in their ways, holding onto their old lifestyle out of fear of pursuing something better. I disagree with that mindset too. While having objectives with a timetable rather than a deadline is undoubtedly beneficial and significant, you can’t always predict when you’ll complete tasks. Extreme unpredictability characterizes life. It may come about sooner than you anticipate, longer than you anticipate, or not at all.

You’re never “too old,” in my opinion, to do anything. Who cares what age you are if you believe it’s worth a try or if it will improve your life, health, happiness, and more? Now go ahead and reap the benefits again. Regardless of your age—25, 55, or 85—you have an abundance of amazing experiences, happy memories, and untapped potential to discover on this amazing adventure called life. But even while saying so, I have to emphasize the crucial and constant truth that time is a finite resource. Furthermore, just because something may wait, doesn’t imply it should.

5 Roadblocks To a Change in Life

1. Our thoughts.  All of our actions are controlled by our thoughts.  Sometimes we are our own worst enemies.  Many times we fall short of success in many areas of our lives because of our thoughts.  I have heard people saying the following words:

– I’m too old to _____.

– I’m too young to _____.

– I don’t have enough time in a day.

– I’m not good enough.

It is never too late, but it is quite easy to talk yourself out of success.  Stop talking yourself out of being successful and find a way to hold those thoughts back. One way to change these thoughts is to be selective about what you let into your mind.

2. Listening to negativity.  Do not let negativity break or shatter your success.  You are better than any negativity that may try to discourage you from being successful.  Do not listen whether it is a friend, family member, co-worker, boss, or just a plain “hater.”  I usually do not focus on the haters, but with this point, I have to mention them to tell you to ignore them.

3. Living larger than life.  When we think we are bigger than life, we then start getting “cocky.” Stay humble and remember that we were created to help others.  It is never about one individual; it has always been about a team.  In the case of life, it is about giving and serving others.

4. Living in a box.  It is natural for us to hold to our routines and form habits. There is nothing wrong with routines or good habits, but success comes with taking risks.  We have to get out of the box and expose ourselves to new things, so we can grow.  Do not get stuck in a box because of your fear of taking risks.  Discover ways of challenging your mind. 

5. Memories.  How many times have you heard or have you said, “I wish things were like they used to be.”  When you get caught up in past accomplishments, you end up limiting your success.  The same is so for focusing on past failures.  Instead of emphasizing your memories, focus on the present and how you plan to move forward.

Powerful Ways That Help You To Change Your Life

1.     The present is what matters.
When you’re busy concentrating on what has been, or what will be, you rob yourself of the moment. Be here with the present, because right here, right now is where the change you want begins.

2.     Everything changes.
Life rarely goes as planned, and most of us end up in a career that’s nothing like we expected. If you can accept that change will be happening at every step, you can turn anything around. You don’t have to linger in your failures or wallow in the things that went wrong.

3.     We all get derailed.
We all put on such a good front for each other, but if you ask people about their failures and truly listen to what they’ve been through, you’ll realize that everyone has struggles, wrong turns that left them on uncharted roads, and detours that they had no clue how to navigate. If you can accept your derailment as a new path instead of an obstacle, you’ll have an easier time getting through it.

4.     Start in small increments.
If you’re turning around something big, start small. Give yourself baby steps and small wins, until you start to build momentum.

5.     Focus on the journey, not the destination.
If all you can think about is where you’re headed, you’ll lose touch with where you are. Every step of the way has its wisdom lessons and beauty, so don’t miss out by getting ahead of yourself.

6.     Don’t make excuses.
It’s natural to try to explain away why you may have messed up or failed. Excuses might help you save your pride (that is, assuming the people around you accept them), but they will do absolutely nothing to advance you toward your goals. Far better to simply own it and move on in a spirit of self-acceptance.

7.     Risks are worth taking.
Especially if you’ve been burned before you might be understandably wary of risk-taking behavior, but in most situations the best thing you can do is take another chance–or even a different version of the same chance again. You cannot protect yourself from failure without also protecting yourself from your happiness.

8.     Discomfort is OK.
There’s a strange but widespread idea that success comes without difficulty, but with rare exceptions that’s far from the truth. When you learn to be okay with discomfort is the moment you turn that feeling into an action of personal growth.

9.     Safety is an illusion.
We all seek to be safe, but that safety is always an illusion. The moment you accept this is the moment you can be free to try all the things you were scared to try. The false seduction of safety is always more dangerous than the alternative.

10. Surround yourself with the right kind of people.
You can surround yourself with the wrong people and keep doing the wrong things, or surround yourself with the right people and start doing the right things. You’re only as good as the people you surround yourself with, so be brave enough to let go of those who weigh you down and stick with the ones who reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel.

11. Uncertainty is the only certainty.
You can’t possibly know exactly how things will turn out, so if you give in to your desire to see the path ahead, you’ll avoid life-changing opportunities for safer, more predictable options. It is how we embrace uncertainty in our lives that leads to the great transformation of our souls.

Conclusion

This post ought to feel like a wake-up call even though it shouldn’t be sad or make you feel horrible. Not everything in life is sunshine and rainbows; occasionally you need a quick kick in the ass to wake you up, focus,  get serious, and get going while you still have the energy. It’s about realizing that time is going and that you need to put in the time, effort, and work if you truly want the things you want. It’s not about putting unnecessary pressure on yourself or getting nervous. There aren’t any shortcuts. It’s about realizing that now is the best time to start, regardless of the challenges, obstacles, or problems you are facing at the moment.

References

Yeung, A. (n.d.). It Might Be Too Late. Anthony J. Yeung. https://www.anthonyjyeung.com/it-might-be-too-late/

MTN Universal. (n.d.). 5 Roadblocks to a Successful Life. MTN Universal. https://www.mtnuniversal.com/blogs/5-roadblocks-to-a-successful-life

Daskal, L. (n.d.). 11 Powerful Ways Anyone Can Turn Their Life Around at Any Age. Inc. https://www.inc.com/lolly-daskal/11-powerful-ways-anyone-can-turn-their-life-around-at-any-age.html

Failure is an inescapable piece of life, and difficulties can be crippling and demotivating. However, it is during these trying times that we have the chance to build resilience, gain useful knowledge, and ultimately turn setbacks into victories. The ability to find motivation in the face of failure can give us the strength to come back stronger and carry on our journey toward success.

We will investigate the art of finding motivation in the face of failure in this article. We will discuss methods for overcoming discouragement and regaining our motivation and delve into the psychological and emotional aspects of setbacks. We can cultivate a growth mindset and use setbacks as catalysts for personal and professional development by embracing failure as a stepping stone rather than a roadblock.

In order to assist you in reviving your motivation after a setback, we will examine practical strategies and insights throughout this article. We’ll talk about the value of self-compassion, how to reframe failure, and how to get help from others. We will also discuss how setting goals, accepting challenges, and learning from past mistakes can help you get back on your feet.

Keep in mind, mishaps don’t characterize us. Our path forward is determined by how we react to failure and our capacity to find inspiration in the face of adversity. We can turn setbacks into powerful comebacks by cultivating resilience, accepting the lessons learned from failure, and tapping into our inner drive.

Therefore, let’s set out on this journey together to learn how to find motivation in the midst of failure, paving the way for a triumphant comeback and continued development.

Understanding Failure And Its Impact

Failure is an innate piece of life and a typical encounter for most people. It describes an instance in which desired outcomes, expectations, or goals are not met. Despite the fact that failure is frequently viewed as a negative experience, it is essential to comprehend that it can significantly influence personal development, learning, and eventual success.

A. Accepting that failure is a normal part of the process: Failure is a normal part of life’s journey and not a sign of incompetence or worthlessness. The perspective shifts from seeing failure as a setback to seeing it as a stepping stone toward growth and success when it is accepted as a natural occurrence. People can approach challenges with a more upbeat and resilient mindset when they realize that failure is not only inevitable but also necessary for personal growth.

B. Recognizing the psychological and emotional effects of failure: Our feelings and mental health can be profoundly affected when we fail. It is fundamental to recognize and approve the sensations of disillusionment, disappointment, or self-question that might emerge after a mishap. People who are aware of these feelings are better able to deal with them and seek assistance when they need it. Additionally, it is essential to avoid harsh self-criticism and practice self-compassion because it can hinder one’s ability to recover from failure and learn from it.

C. Reexamining disappointment as a chance for development and learning: Instead of being viewed as a personal defeat, failure ought to be reframed as an opportunity for development and learning. People can concentrate on learning valuable lessons and insights from failure rather than dwelling on its negative aspects. This includes pondering what turned out badly, recognizing regions for development, and carrying out changes for future undertakings. People can learn a lot from failure and learn new skills, strategies, and perspectives that will help them succeed in the long run.

Individuals can navigate setbacks more effectively and use them as stepping stones toward personal and professional development by accepting failure, recognizing its emotional impact, and reframing it as an opportunity for growth and learning.

Cultivating Resilience and Self-Compassion

People can face failure with resilience and maintain a positive self-image by cultivating resilience and self-compassion. Individuals are able to bounce back stronger, grow from their experiences, and continue making progress toward their goals if they cultivate resilience, practice self-compassion, and learn from failure without dwelling on self-blame.

A. Building flexibility to return from disappointment: The capacity to recover and adjust in the face of adversity is resilience. Developing coping mechanisms, maintaining a positive outlook, and cultivating inner strength are all necessary components of resilience. This can be accomplished by setting reasonable assumptions, embracing difficulties as learning potential open doors, looking for help from others, and rehearsing taking care of oneself. People who are resilient are better able to deal with failure, recover from setbacks, and keep working toward their goals.

B. Reframing negative self-talk and practicing self-compassion: Self-sympathy includes treating oneself with thoughtfulness, understanding, and pardoning. It is essential to cultivate self-compassion rather than engaging in self-blame or harsh self-criticism when confronted with failure. This means recognizing and accepting one’s feelings, reminding oneself that failure is a normal part of life, and giving oneself support and encouragement. Individuals can maintain a healthy self-image and navigate failure with greater emotional resilience by reframe negative self-talk and practice self-compassion.

C. Moving past blaming oneself and learning from mistakes: While it is vital to assume a sense of ownership with one’s activities and gain from botches, exorbitant self-fault can be impeding. Individuals ought to concentrate on gaining knowledge from failure rather than dwelling on self-blame. This includes examining what turned out badly, recognizing regions for development, and creating techniques for future achievement. People can overcome self-blame and channel their energy into productive actions by adopting a growth mindset and viewing failure as an opportunity for learning and growth.

Seeking Support and Building a Supportive Network

A sense of belonging, encouragement, and resilience in the face of failure are all aided by seeking support, sharing experiences, and developing a positive network. Individuals can find the support and inspiration they need to overcome failure with resilience and continue moving forward by participating in mentorship, friendship, or support group activities, learning from the resilience stories of others, and surrounding themselves with a positive network.

A. Getting in touch with friends, mentors, or support groups: When confronted with disappointment, looking for help from guides, companions, or care groups can be gigantically useful. These people can offer advice, direction, and a new perspective on the situation. Mentors can provide valuable insights by sharing their own failure-related experiences. Emotional support, encouragement, and a sense of community can be provided by friends and support networks. Individuals can gain support, perspective, and motivation to better manage failure by interacting with others.

B. Learning from others’ stories of resilience and sharing one’s own experiences: It can be educational and motivating to converse with others whose experiences have helped them overcome failure. Hearing accounts of flexibility from other people who have confronted comparable misfortunes can give trust, inspiration, and significant examples. It assists people with understanding that disappointment isn’t exceptional to them and that achievement can in any case be accomplished notwithstanding difficulties. Resilience lessons can be learned from other people’s experiences and used to improve one’s own situation.

C. Having a supportive and encouraging network around you: Our mindset and resilience can be significantly influenced by the people we surround ourselves with. The negative effects of failure can be lessened by creating a network of positive and encouraging people. These people can offer consolation, give productive criticism, and commend triumphs and progress. By encircling oneself with a positive organization, people can get progressing backing, motivation, and inspiration to persist through disappointments and keep pursuing their objectives.

Embracing Challenges and Taking Action

Embracing difficulties and making a move is a strong outlook that can prompt self-awareness and accomplishment. You can use these strategies to get over your fear, get back on track, and celebrate your progress:Recognize and recognize your feelings of trepidation: Recognize the specific uncertainties or fears that are keeping you from moving forward. You are able to confront and deal with them directly if you recognize them.

Reframe fear as a chance: Reframe fear as a sign that you are stepping outside of your comfort zone and onto a path of growth rather than a negative emotion. Accept the unpredictability as an opportunity for new knowledge and experiences.

Establish objectives that are distinct and attainable: Divide your more ambitious objectives into manageable steps. By concentrating on tasks that are doable, this strategy helps you regain momentum. Every little step you take carries you nearer to your definitive objective.

Make a reliable move: Begin making a move, regardless of how little, towards your objectives. With each step you take, momentum builds, and progress keeps you motivated. Keep in mind that even insignificant actions can have a significant impact over time.

Look for help and responsibility: Be surrounded by people who are there for you and can motivate and inspire you. Consider working with a partner who can hold you accountable for taking action and sharing your goals and progress with them.

Recognize small victories: Celebrate and acknowledge each small victory and milestone along the way. You gain confidence and positive reinforcement from this recognition. To refuel and maintain your motivation, indulge in something you enjoy or engage in self-care activities.

Gain from misfortunes: The journey is not without obstacles and setbacks. Rather than survey them as disappointments, consider them to be chances to learn and develop. Examine what went wrong, make any necessary adjustments to your strategy, and use setbacks as stepping stones to future success.

Show yourself compassion: Throughout the process, treat yourself with kindness. Recognize that progress may not always be linear and that it is acceptable to experience setbacks or periods of doubt. Compassionately care for yourself and concentrate on your overall development rather than perfection.

Conclusion

Disappointment isn’t the end; it is a chance for development. We can turn setbacks into comebacks by cultivating resilience, learning from mistakes, seeking support, and remaining motivated. Accept failure, maintain your determination, and allow your path to success to be defined by your recovery from failure.

One way to think of emotional stability in a relationship is the capacity to control and manage one’s emotions in a way that is good for the relationship and healthy. It involves being able to talk to your partner openly and honestly, actively listening to them, showing empathy, and dealing with disagreements in a healthy way.

Relationships that are emotionally stable typically have a high level of trust, respect for one another, and open communication. They are typically more resilient to difficulties and setbacks, and they tend to be more satisfying for both partners.

Misunderstandings, disagreements, and even emotional abuse can occur in relationships where one or both partners struggle with emotional stability. These kinds of relationships may be more likely to end in divorce or break up because they can be draining and unhealthy for both partners.

Working with a therapist or counselor who can help you develop healthy communication and conflict resolution skills, as well as identify and address any underlying emotional issues that may be affecting your relationship, can be helpful for building emotional stability in a relationship.

Factors that influence emotional stability

There are a number of factors that can influence emotional stability in a relationship, including:

1. Communication problems: Misunderstandings and conflicts can undermine emotional stability when partners are unable to communicate openly and honestly with one another.
2. Neglecting self-care: Self-care neglect can result in more stress and emotional exhaustion, which can affect a relationship’s emotional stability.
3. Without boundaries: It can be challenging to safeguard one’s own emotional well-being and avert conflict escalation when boundaries are unclear.
4. Conflict avoidance: In an effort to maintain emotional stability, some people may try to avoid conflicts or suppress their own feelings. However, this can actually cause a buildup of negative feelings and ultimately undermine stability.
5. Undesirable survival techniques: Emotional stability can be impacted by unhealthy coping mechanisms like substance abuse or avoidance.
6. unhealthy or toxic relationships: A harmful or unfortunate relationship can be sincerely depleting and obstruct close to home soundness.
7. Stressors from outside: Emotional stability in a relationship can also be affected by external stressors like financial or work-related stress.

Strategies for Building Emotional Stability

Building emotional stability in a relationship is important for creating a healthy, happy, and fulfilling partnership. Here are some tips for how you can work on building emotional stability in your relationship:

Be honest and forthright with your partner. Being able to talk about your feelings and thoughts with your partner is essential because it can help you both understand and support one another.

Make sure you listen actively. Instead of waiting for your turn to speak, make an effort to really listen to and comprehend what your partner is saying.

Work on dealing with your own feelings. To respond to your partner in a calm and rational manner, it is essential to be able to recognize and control your own emotions.

Seek assistance. If you’re having trouble controlling your emotions, you might want to talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and come up with ways to deal with them.

Practice appreciation. You can build emotional stability and strengthen your relationship by focusing on the things you appreciate about your partner and your relationship.

Give yourself a break. You can feel more balanced and be better able to support your partner if you take care of your own physical and emotional needs.

Learn to forgive. In a relationship, holding grudges and dwelling on past mistakes can lead to unnecessary tension and negativity. Instead, try to forgive yourself and move on from past mistakes.

Establish healthy limits. It is essential to establish and communicate clear boundaries with your partner. In the relationship, this may help you both feel supported and respected.

Take breaks as necessary. It is acceptable to take a break and give yourself some space if you are experiencing feelings of stress or overwhelmed. Taking care of yourself can help you feel more grounded and emotionally stable when you return to the relationship.

Look for activities that help you stay focused and calm. Find activities that help you feel more emotionally stable and balanced, whether they are yoga, meditation, or something else.

Build trust. Emotional stability depends on relationships fostering trust. Try to be trustworthy, open, and honest with your partner, and work on regaining trust if it has been lost.

Conclusion

In order for a relationship to develop emotional stability, both partners must exert effort and demonstrate commitment. It includes being transparent with one another, rehearsing taking care of oneself, defining limits, and looking for help when required. It also involves using “I” statements, seeking compromise, expressing gratitude, practicing mindfulness, taking breaks when necessary, and practicing forgiveness. Getting relationship counseling to address underlying issues and develop healthy coping mechanisms may also be part of emotional stability building. It is possible to build a relationship that is both emotionally stable and strong by working together and being proactive about managing emotions.

When you are physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted because of the stress you were handling for a long period of time that you feel, you won’t longer be able to handle all this because it causes you mental and physical exertion.

Burnout has great effects on your life, it reduces your productivity at work, you were unable to focus on what’s going on in your life, and you become mentally tired and unable to handle tasks effectively. It impacts all aspects of your life it’s not about only the mental state of your mind but your physical, and emotional state gets affected from that too, the condition you have to face consequences that impacts you in all aspects of your life.

Are you heading towards burnout?

• Do you want to leave things that are undone?
• You got exhausted very easily.
• You are unable to focus on your work.
• Your emotions are too overwhelming.
• It was difficult to maintain a work-life balance.

“Burnout is nature’s way of telling you, you’ve been going through the motions your soul has departed; you’re a zombie, a member of the walking dead, a sleepwalker. False optimism is like administrating stimulants to an exhausted nervous system.”

― Sam Keen

It’s about YOU

Burnout is a process that starts gradually it doesn’t start overnight but slowly when things are piling up, your body, your mind, and even your emotions start suffering and you got the red flags about that but you kept ignoring it because you are not first priority, you put yourself at below level. For you, there are many important things in your life except you. You want to earn money, you have friends you have to maintain your social class, your family, your colleagues, your work all these things are important to you but the thing that is most important and you forget is YOU.

Physical symptoms of burnout

• Exhausted almost every day
• Sleep disturbance
• Appetite problem
• Muscle ache
• Headache

Emotional Symptoms of burnout

• Emotionally full
• Unable to handle things effectively
• Lack of satisfaction in life
• Unable to focus on the task
• A feeling of detachment from surrounding

Behavior Symptoms of burnout

• Become easily irritated
• Lack of interest in activities
• Gets easily frustrated.
• Become aggressive over little things.

Causes of burnout

• It may be cause because you work a lot and don’t get appreciation from your boss. You are the one who makes a presentation, and help others in their work but there are times when others get credit instead of you.
• It is cause by a huge pile of responsibilities, exact same routine you follow for a long period of time and don’t get any vacation or off time from your hectic life.
• Your personality traits contribute to burnout when you are a perfectionist you don’t agree on less, so you always wanted the best at any cost otherwise it didn’t satisfy you.
• When you are pessimistic about things in your life.
• When you have a problem with overthinking.

Dealing with burnout

Ask for help

When you realize that things are getting out of control and you can’t do things on your own. Just ask for help from the closest person you have. Maybe he/she will help you to find calm in the chaos that you are going through.

Take time off

When you follow the same pattern, you start to get bored and easily exhaust because there’s no difference in your routine. Take some time off for yourself and enjoy it for a bit, either go on holiday with your family or friends, go on hiking, bicycle riding near a lake or somewhere peaceful where you can feel nature and your existence above all the things in your life.

Start Meditating

Get up early in the morning, and give time to yourself. Do something for yourself. Doing meditation exercises won’t take long but it helped you to keep your head straight and you feel that you have energy last but not least your day start by giving importance to yourself.

Limit negative things in life

You need to filter out negative things in your life. Try to limit your contact with those who always criticize you, who always find faults in you and degrade you in front of others.

Try to balance your life

It is not about doing all work and no holiday or vice versa but you need to find a way between them. You have different kinds of responsibilities to do but you also need some relaxing time as well so try to balance between life and work

Conclusion

If you want to avoid burnout start working on yourself NOW. Why do you wait for the last stage to come and you have nothing left in you because it affects all aspects of life. When you identify the red flags take a break and recover yourself from mental, emotional, and physical strain.